It can be hard to know how to bring up anxiety or depression with a teen. Sometimes it feels like walking on eggshells, or like you might say the wrong thing. But starting the conversation is often the most important step.
Teens notice more than we sometimes realize. They feel stress at school, pressure with friends, and even small things can pile up. Letting them know you see and hear them can make a big difference.
A good first step is talking in a normal, everyday moment. You do not need a special setting or a big speech. It can be while driving, cooking, or just sitting together in the living room. Simple questions like “How has school been for you?” or “I noticed you have seemed stressed lately, how are you feeling?” can make it easier for them to open up.
Try asking open-ended questions and encouraging your teen to explain what is on their mind. You can repeat back what you hear to make sure you understand, or share your thoughts in a way that invites them to respond. Showing that you are interested in their perspective can help them feel supported without feeling pressured.
It can also help to be honest about your own feelings. Saying that you feel stressed sometimes or that you notice when you feel anxious can make it easier for your teen to talk about their own experiences.
Professional support is always an option too. A counselor, therapist, or doctor can provide tools and guidance for both you and your teen. You might offer to help them find someone to talk to, or even go with them if they want support.
Starting these conversations might feel awkward at first, and that is normal. What matters is creating a space where your teen feels heard, understood, and not alone. Small moments of checking in, asking questions, and being present can build a foundation that helps your teen feel supported over time.
-Kodi