When I left my small hometown to start college at a place where I didn’t know a single soul, I was both excited and nervous. Most of my high school classmates were going to the same schools nearby — but I wanted something different. I craved change, new experiences, and the chance to step outside of my comfort zone.
That decision to go somewhere completely new felt bold, and honestly, a little scary. But looking back, it was one of the best choices I’ve ever made.
I decided to join a sorority my freshman year, thinking it would be a quick way to meet people. I had no idea just how life-changing that choice would be. Through it, I found not just classmates or “sorority sisters”, but true, deep friendships — the kind that last long past graduation. In fact, three of those college friends stood beside me as bridesmaids on my wedding day.
We bonded over late-night food runs, “study sessions” that turned into deep life talks, and the kind of laughter that makes your stomach hurt. But what really made those friendships last was something deeper: we shared the same values and made the effort to show up for each other.
I checked in on my friends just as much as they checked in on me. We were intentional about staying connected, being honest, and showing kindness — even in the middle of stress, exams, or tough life seasons. I’ve learned that being a good friend often leads to having good friends. Friendship is a two-way street, and mutual effort makes all the difference.
For anyone stepping into college (or any big life transition), here’s what I wish I could tell my freshman-year self:
- Be brave. Try the things that feel unfamiliar — join the club, talk to the person next to you, go to the event even if you don’t know anyone there yet. Growth doesn’t happen in your comfort zone.
- Say yes more often. Some of the most meaningful memories come from spontaneous moments — late-night walks, group projects that turn into friendships, or coffee runs that lead to honest conversations.
- Find people who reflect your values. Shared interests are great, but shared morals, compassion, and respect will build lasting bonds.
- Kindness always matters. You’ll never regret being kind to someone — especially when everyone around you is adjusting, struggling, or just trying to figure things out too.
- Put in the effort. Check in, follow up, ask how someone’s doing — even if you just met. You never know what role someone might play in your life until you give it a chance to grow.
Transitions are hard — but they’re also full of potential. Some of my strongest relationships were born during times of uncertainty, simply because I was willing to take a risk, be myself, and treat people with care.
If you’re walking into a new chapter — whether it’s college, a new job, or just a fresh start — know this: your people are out there. Be brave enough to show up, and kind enough to reach out.
You just might find your bridesmaids in the process.
-Laiken